Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Disfunctional Thanksgiving
I love the holdays, don't get me wrong. I just wish I had a different family to celebrate them with. My mother is the queen of guilt. I can not do anything good enough for her, which can drive a type A person over the top very quickly. My mother will actually tell me what gifts to buy my family, and even after I have bought something, she will call and ask me what I bought and tell me that the gift I bought "won't work". She also plans all of the family get togethers, when they are, where, who brings what dish, although these gatherings are NEVER at her house. In other words, she PLANS the gathering at someone elses house!! My family thinks that my going back to school full time is like a hobby, and the fact that I work part time means I have a lot of extra time on my hands (???)My sister is sweet and I love her, but she is quickly becoming a mini version of my mother. My brother, the oldest, should be a leader, should be able to take care of himself and his little sisters. Instead, he is one of those adults who refuses to grow up, and allows my parents to continue to parent him. He is an alcoholic (I think he is currently sober...we never know for sure) and this Christmas should be the first holiday in the past 4 years that he won't be in jail for something (ask me again around December 20th...things could change). My brother's sons, now 22 and 20, are rude and selfish, and having never lived with their father, create awkward moments at family gatherings. We joke that we should sell this to some network to turn into a sitcom or drama (take your pick). If anyone watches the ABC show "Brothers and Sisters", in comparrison, I would love to spend my holidays with that family...Mine makes theirs look nearly normal. Anyone interested in adoption?
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2 comments:
My family is closer to the Gilmore Girls. Know what you mean. But that is what I meant earlier. They are a pain but it would be worst without them. Enjoy them Kathy someday. They will not be around and you will miss them. Sorry, that no one wants to adopt them.
Diane
I used to feel the same way. I was like why put on a different face on a family gathering. Some of my family members are liars, too controlling and backstubbing people. They will try to talk to you and act like they care but after the gathering you will never see them again until the next family gathering. Sometimes they turn the story around to make you look bad and them good (do you guys know what I mean?).
Anyway, I tried not to be in that kind of situation, so what I do is I invite my dad and grandpa a day or so before the holiday. And we have a nice and quite celebration with my fiance. Since my family thinks that my fiance is not good enough for me.
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